Sometimes, they can feel like a powerful vortex sucking you down or like a powerful ocean current that sweeps you under water. In the Solid Self confidence program i said that some people criticize others and put them down just to feel worthy and successful. When I tell him about it, he says he doesn't do it and that I am basically exaggerating things. Reacting with yelling, criticism, or other negative responses will escalate the situation, you need to do everything in your power to reel in your thoughts and feelings so you can address the real problem, which is their yelling. Sure, when we were together, they put up a good front by seeming to be present in the moment, and lulling me into a … I know I am not crazy because I have talked to the other people that are there and they say he is very rude to me at times. You may do something that frustrates your partner, but that is no excuse for them to be putting you down in front of other people. In most instances when someone is yelling at you, your emotions are evoked and you feel the need to react. Calmly address the yelling. You could have a boss that is always criticizing you.

Whether she spreads rumors, makes fun of you or spills secrets, making you look bad in front of other people isn't a sign of true friendship. 3. 4. When someone is putting you down in public and embarrassing you in front of others it is completely unacceptable. first, i would like to say that i admire you and wish there were more people who stand up for those who cannot/do not want to stand up for themselves. In fact, the more personal the put-down, the greater the likelihood that the incident is more about the other person’s insecurities than it is about you. "It’s a really good job, so we just put up with her. Some people do that by striving for success while some people do it by standing still and putting others down!! The bully’s intent is to make someone else feel inferior so they can feel powerful.

hello kathryn, i too was googling this subject (put down humour is in my opinion the best description of my issue with a particular 'friend') and came across this website and your comment. Put-downs can make us feel small. We all have people in our lives who try to bring us down. My ex was one of the emotionally selfish people I've ever met. Innovate 10 Scary Ways Toxic People Try to Destroy You Toxic people can make you feel ashamed, confused, and even worthless, but not if you recognize and put … Focus on the positive. You may have that one parent that tries to bring you down all the time. Everytime my husband and I go out with other people he always talks down to me and almost tries to make me look stupid. You take her nastiness and you put your head down and keep going," Theresa said. Confident secure people who are happy with themselves don’t feel the need to belittle others.